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4 Tools for Self-Reflection

by | Oct 16, 2020 | 2 comments

4 Tools for Self-Reflection

by | Oct 16, 2020 | 2 comments

4 Ways to Self-Reflect Using Study Skills

It’s been a little while since my last post, but if you’ve gathered anything from my blog so far it’s that I’m doing this work right along with the posts. And building that foundational self-love doesn’t just happen over the course of a 1500 word blog post. So, I want to give myself a big welcome back, and dive into what I’ve been building lately to help strengthen my own foundation.  

In this new journey of building a solid, self-aware foundation for myself, for pretty much the first time in almost 30 years, a big piece I am working on is self-reflection. And I mean deep, emotional, functional, gut-based self-reflection. 

Self-reflection is not necessarily new to me, but I have found that I end up learning very similar lessons over and over again….and then I started getting really nostalgic about college classes. (Stick with me here).  

Important for this post, I am a notetaking, writing utensil, notebook, study supplies nerd. And proudly so.  

I used to love looking back through my course notebooks at the end of a semester, seeing organized outlines, cover to cover handwriting on college-ruled sheets, so much that the indent from the writing gives a bumpiness to the reverse side of the page. And then came the highlighters. And sometimes the typed-up notes, transcribed from those notebooks.  

I didn’t do this for every class, but I felt so invested and proud of those, knowing I was fully committed to learning and absorbing this information every way I could.  

And while I was recently thinking back on this, I had a pretty cool revelation.

Why can’t I apply the study techniques I used in college to my personal, self-reflective education?  

I know an unchanging part of being human is that no matter what, I will always end up learning the same lesson a few different ways, but I am no longer allowing information to so quickly flow through me that I barely retain any of it.  

Our brains were made for this:  

There is actually a study technique where you retain information better when you employ as many senses as possible. It enables more regions of the brain to store data, which in turn creates interconnected neural pathways.  

For a college course, it could look like this:

  • Listen to a lecture 
  • Write down your notes 
  • Read it back as you type it up 
  • Print out the typed notes and highlight as you read it back once more, usually out loud 
  • Transfer key information onto notecards if applicable 

(That was a free almost fail proof study process right there if you’re taking any classes right now!)  

Do you know why it’s almost failproof? This is even more simple than the neuroscientific explanation. It’s because you keep repeating the information back to yourself so many ways, that it’s almost impossible not to retain it.  

If it’s such a great way to solidify learning, then why don’t we do it in our personal life? I decided to apply it the same techniques laid out above (with some adjustments), to a personal course in self-reflection.  

4 Simple Study and Memory Based Tools for Self-Reflection 

Four Study Tools for Self-Reflection are One Meditate (listen to Your internal lecture), two journal (take notes), three read it back (review and highlight insights), four write reminders (use notecards).

Study tool for self-reflection 1: Meditation

Think of mediation as the internal lecture. This is where you’re sitting in class, listening to the professor teach, except this time, you are the professor and the student.  

This is your time to sit with yourself, listen, and receive.  

Usually when you are sitting in class, you are listening and taking notes at the same time, but in this case it is important to let your mind go, and learn to be aware of what is happening within you on a cellular level. 

Study tool for self-reflection number one is Meditate and listen to your internal lecture

Guided meditations are really helpful when meditating for self-reflection or awareness. I am to focusing more on specific chakras right now, but other themed meditations can really help, too. Try searching guided meditations on YouTube.

Study tool for self-reflection 2: Journal

This is the note taking part of your class.  

Because you are the student and professor in this metaphor, it is ok (and preferred) that you are not taking notes (journaling) at the same time you are listening (meditating).  

It is important that you physically write down your self-reflection in order to integrate whatever insights you received from your meditation.  

This is where the brain connections really begin. You are processing information through language and the physical act of writing. Your brain is starting the analyze and reach new understandings just through this simple act.  Sometimes I do this out of order, too. I will journal before I meditate, which is kind of like if I took notes on the reading and then brought those notes to a class discussion.  

Either way, I am integrating information in one step, and allowing information to be received in another. 

Study tool for self-reflection number 2 is to journal and take notes on your reflections

Journal Prompts for Self-Reflection: 

  • What are my values? 
  • If I could do anything with my time, what would it be?
  • What does my idea life, day, week, month look like?
  • Do my actions align with my values?  
  • When have I felt aligned in the past, and what can I do to feel like that again?
  • What is holding me back from acting in alignment? 

Study tool for self-reflection 3: Read it Back

Honestly, before this post, I never really read my journals back in an intentional way.  

I might have gone back after some significant time and looked back as a form of nostalgia, but I have never intentionally reread what I wrote in a way to further build and retain my new connections and understandings.  

Reading your insights back is the most crucial step to retention and integration.

Have you ever really done well in a class if you only went to lecture and took notes, but never, not once, reviewed them? Maybe you have once or twice, but I know it’s not the norm.

Whether it’s the next morning, or the next night, reread what you wrote the day before.  

Wait at least 12 hours, give the information some time to process in your sleep. Sleep is vital in solidifying learning. It strengthens memory and helps to link new ones to older ones.  

Study tool for self-reflection number 3 is to read it back, review your notes, and highlight insights

When you do read back your journal, try to take notes, add to the end of the entry or add new thoughts in the margins. And, the most fun part, break out the highlighters!  

These are your words, the best, most amazing words.  Highlight the parts that deserve to be visually celebrated. Draw your attention back to the main point you stumbled upon or worked through. The part you want to take away with you, and integrate into your daily life. 

Study tool for self-reflection 4: Write Reminders

Since this is your own personal and internal education, there’s never going to be a sit down, blue book, multiple choice or essay exam on self-reflection. But isn’t life the biggest test of all?  

If you are investing so much time into self-reflection and awareness, then don’t you want to make sure you retain it? And if it’s as important as you think it is in the moment, then don’t you want to carry it with you?  

We’re told from elementary school how useful notecards can be as study aids. Why can’t they be for our self-reflection, too?  

What if you had a little stack of notecards you carried with you that had a sentence or two from your journaling takeaways?  

You could cycle them out, and store or recycle them when you feel like you’ve fully integrated an understanding.  

Study tool for self-reflection number 4 is to write reminders on notecards you can carry with you.

I know you most certainly have written some one-liners that speak so clearly and specifically to your journey. Help them stand out a little more and give yourself that extra reminder!

How is your self-reflection going?

I would love to know how your self-reflection journey is going! What strategies have you used to help integrate the new understandings you gain? Do you struggle like I do in learning the same lessons over and over again? What do you think will help you integrate lessons better? Comment below!


  1. Susan Horstmann

    Love your writing Kelsey! Your latest blog is beautiful, simple and yet complex. Thank you for sharing your journey!

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